I was neurotic for years. Anxious, depressed, selfish. And everyone kept telling me to change.
And I resented them, and agreed with them, and wanted to change, but simply couldnt, no matter how I tried.
What hurt the most was that, like the others, my closest friend kept urging me to change. So I felt powerless and trapped.
One day he said Dont change. I love you as you are.
Those words were music to my ears: Dont change. Dont change. Dont change. I love you as you are.
I relaxed. I came alive. And, suddenly, I changed!
Now I know that I couldnt really change till I found someone to love me whether I changed or not!
Is this how you love me, god?
(~ Anthony De Mello)
Natural transformation like that of a caterpillar is sustainable. Everything else is just yet another attempt to please someone!
If we cant change naturally, it might be worth repurposing finding new meanings, application or value for what we are/have, right?
Repurposing is sustainable!
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